How To Attract Your Soul Mate

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Finding your soul mate often starts with finding yourself and discovering who you really are and what you truly want out of life.

“You can’t control others, but only yourself.”

This is a phrase you’ll often encounter in self-help guides.

If you’re in a relationship and there’s something that you don’t like, there’s a huge possibility that it’s a result of your past decisions. You had a choice and making the right choice requires wisdom.

We often sacrifice ourselves just to keep up with the pace of life and to keep things running smoothly. We have so much to deal with– family, work, school, etc. Likewise, this could also hinder us from being our true selves when we’re in public, and it’s where most of our relationships start.

Furthermore, everything done during the course of a relationship was already decided by us, ranging from the person we’re going to date, to when to have sex. The decisions you make have a huge impact on who you are as a person. If done carelessly, time will come and you’ll slowly be disconnected to who you really are.

Here are the tips that could help you prevent that from happening:

1. Be mindful

Have a look at your past relationships and determine where it went wrong. It could be big fights, prioritizing your work over your partner, or whatever moments that had a negative effect on the relationship.

In these events, try to remember how you resolved it. Did it change the relationship for the better or for the worse?

For example: You accidentally got pregnant, and he’s not ready yet. So, you got rid of the baby. Although you and your partner stayed together, you were slowly drifting apart.

Having this kind of recollection is not easy, but you still need to do it.

2. Be aware of your decision patterns

What influenced you to commit those past decisions? Was it shame, fear, or to avoid arguments?  Most of our decisions are based on the outcome that we expect to happen.

For example: You’ve decided to get rid of the baby because you don’t want to lose the relationship out of fear. You hoped that it’ll help you get closer, but it turned out to be the opposite.

Try to reach the core of the reasons of your decisions. In this case, it’s fear. See if you’ve been making the same decisions with your past relationships.

3. Swap out your negative traits

As you figure out the mistakes you’ve committed, you’ll be able to change yourself for the better.  Most of your decisions were influenced by negative traits, and the only way to prevent them from happening again is by being honest with yourself.

Embrace each of your negative traits, but try to change them into positive ones. If your past decisions were based on the fear of rejection, change them and learn to accept your flaws.

4. Be positive

This could be hard, but try your best to do it. Your negative traits are connected to a positive flip side and you should focus on that.

For instance, you’re afraid of being single and lonely. Change that and be happy with your own company. Practice personal freedom and know that it’s only you who can help yourself.  This would slowly direct you into a better love life.

5. Acknowledge yourself

You are the captain of your own ship. Don’t let others tell you what to do.

Likewise, what they think is less important than what you think of yourself. Act the way you want, not the way society tells you.  Embrace who you are and do what you do best.

The key is, know who you are, understand yourself, your actions, and your decisions. By doing this, you’ll be able to understand others and will have the ability to connect with them.

It could either be a deeper connection or something that’s more shallow. Whatever it is, this would allow you to figure out which connections are worth keeping and which ones are not.

How To Attract The Perfect Woman…For YOU!

No woman is perfect, but she may just be perfect for YOU if you give her a chance!

No woman is perfect, but she may just be perfect for YOU if you give her a chance!

There are many right ways to do things – and there are also many ways that will only get you further away from what you want. It all starts with what you believe.

What you believe affects what you think, and your thoughts influence what you do, ultimately creating habits which become your character.  That is who you are.

Perfect…For YOU

No woman is perfect to all men, and no man is perfect to all women. No one is perfect; there is only someone that is perfect FOR you.

You must attract the perfect woman for you specifically. Do not ignore her just because other guys think she’s not a top pick. What they imagine as a perfect woman may not match what you value personally. The first step to attracting a perfect woman for you is to identify her.

Your Beliefs

Your core beliefs are in control of your life. If you have yet to consider what you truly believe makes a perfect woman, now is a good time to reflect. Society does not do a very good job in helping us develop healthy, productive relationships.

Conflicting Messages

She is working on becoming the best woman she knows how to be, but the pressure is on. The messages and advice she’s receiving are coming in from every direction. Her mother tells her one thing, society tells her what’s the norm, and her friends are most likely leading her aimlessly as they try to figure out life themselves.

It is your job to put her at ease and make her feel comfortable enough to just be herself.  Relationships are an opportunity to intimately identify with someone and continue to develop.

Unexpected Expectations

You must accept an imperfect woman. You do not need to compromise on core values, but if you want a true relationship with her, you must compromise on some things that are most likely to change over time.

Women are more emotional and men are more visual. Just because she’s not a model doesn’t mean you can’t be attracted to her. There are benefits to women being emotional.  For example, they are naturally intuitive.

When it feels right, she’ll feel it – and you’ll know it because you’ll see it.

What Women Really Want

Most women are not what they are portrayed to be. They do not want a perfect man.

All a woman really wants is to feel the intimate connection with a man who cares about her and makes her feel comfortable just being herself.  You can learn more about creating the connection that makes a woman giver herself to a man both physically and emotionally by visiting this Girlfriend Activation System review.

She’s Right In Front Of You

Once you have decided what you believe makes a woman perfect for you, you then will realize she could be anywhere. Know what you want (what you will accept and what you wont) and you will be successful in finding her.

Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon

The trick is to not look too hard for her.  Let her come to you.

Once you have identified what it is you desire in a woman, the Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon (also known as frequency illusion) will begin to take place. This phenomenon is that in which something newly identified seemingly appears more frequent.  You just may not have been consciously open and aware of the alternative perspective before.

And They Lived Happily Ever After

Do the things you genuinely like to do and go places where you enjoy yourself; that’s how you will find the woman that is perfect for you.

By doing things you like, you will be naturally attracting a woman that will fit into your life perfectly. Don’t be afraid to give a woman a chance, and if she’s not what you were looking for, just tell her she’s an awesome person and wish her the best.

5 Ways To End A Text Conversation Before You Kill The Attraction

If you want to keep the attraction going, end a text conversation when it's going really good instead of waiting until it gets stale and boring.

If you want to keep the attraction going, end a text conversation when it’s going really good instead of waiting until it gets stale and boring.

Picture this…

You are sitting idly at the bar waiting for your drink.  You suddenly turn your head and lock eyes with the incredibly attractive person who just walked in the door.

Fireworks start to explode and time seems to stop.  You gaze at each other for what seems like an eternity, cementing the instant connection the two of you have.

You turn your head away from the mesmerizing gaze to think about something clever to say, but before you know it, the person is sitting next to you and breaks the ice with a question.

You instantly smile and start a conversation. In those few minutes of chatting with this person, you realize that both of you are interested in each other. But then your drink arrives and your table of friends starts to call you over – making you wish you went out by yourself tonight.

So now what?

You don’t want to say goodbye right away as you obviously want to get this person’s number. You awkwardly say a few things and voila! Both of you exchange numbers and the anticipation of a romantic prospect begins.

Obey The Law of Seduction

You’re probably a seasoned dater or flirt when it comes to face to face conversations, but in today’s age, the text message has become a make-or-break in the world of dating.

When ending a text conversation, keep in mind the most basic law of seduction: keep the person wanting more.

Nothing works more in keeping a person interested than to keep them guessing. This means after a few flirty and clever messages, abruptly end the conversation before things get boring.

Most people wait too long to end text conversations.  The best time to end one isn’t when things start to die down and get boring, but rather right at the peak of the conversation when things are going really, really good.

For example, maybe you just said something really funny and the other person responded with, “OMG! I’m LMAO right now!  Seriously, I’m almost in tears!”  That’s actually an excellent time to end the conversation if you want to maximize attraction.

Why?  Because at that very moment, the other person is having a really great time talking to you.  You’ve ramped up the attraction, and they want to keep talking to you.

When you suddenly end the conversation, it leaves them wanting more and they’re going to spend the rest of the night thinking about you and waiting eagerly for your next text.

If you wait until the conversation gets slow and boring, then all the attraction dies with it.

If you’re at a loss for ideas about how to quickly end the conversation without sounding rude, here are 5 text exit strategies that really work:

1. XOXO

End the conversation by texting: XOXO.

It’s a universal and symbolic way of saying hugs and kisses.  Ending a message with XOXO shows them you are interested and comfortable enough around them to send over graphic hugs and kisses without coming across too strong or too lovey dovey.

2. TTYL, I’m Driving

Whether you are or you’re not driving, texting the person “TTYL, I’m Driving,” will definitely end the conversation on a positive note.

TTYL stands for “Talk to you later,” and you’ll definitely leave the other person guessing what “Later” means – Once you’ve stopped driving? Once you get home?  Sometime tomorrow?

And the fact that texting while driving is not only illegal, but seriously dangerous, will definitely give the other person the right message that he or she doesn’t need to reply back.  Everyone with any common sense will understand why you can’t text back if you’re driving.

3. Ooops, Someone Just Popped In

When you don’t want to answer the person’s question or you simply want to end the conversation, texting “Someone just popped in,” tells them that you’re busy with your immediate surroundings and have stuff going on.  It shows that you have a life.

The main thought of you giving someone else your undivided attention will certainly stir their curiosity – “Is it a boy or girl?;” “Is it an ex?;” “Or a potential lover?” Never tell them who it is – making them even more curious than they already are.

4. That’s It For Now

When the other person is asking you lots of questions, stop the conversation by being a little tease and text: “Sorry, but that’s all you’re getting for now.”  Put a wink behind it so they know you’re not mad and are being playful.

Not answering their every question will give you an air of mystery and exclusivity – there’s always power in silence.

But don’t be a prude by saying no for good – tease the other person by giving them a clue to your answer to their question. When you close the door, leave a window open.

5. Got To Go, But What do You Think About…?

End the conversation with a question. This will certainly make the other person answer your question, but without making you feel guilty if you don’t reply back.

This will leave the other person hanging and will keep them looking at their phone to see if you’ve responded since they’re already invested in the conversation. You can opt to reply after work, or at the end of the day, but don’t let days go by without answering back.

Ending a text conversation that’s becoming dull or leading nowhere is an excellent idea to keep the chemistry alive. These are also great tips for when you’re not in the mood, or if you’re tired and sleepy.

Before you continue the conversation for the sake of exchanging messages, use these exit strategies to keep that person aching for more, and keep the fire of curiosity burning.

How Do You Get A Girlfriend If You’re A Nerd?

Nerdy girls are hot too!

Find yourself a hottie!  Nerdy girls rock!

If you’re a nerd, you may not think it’s possible to get a girlfriend. One thing you should realize right away, though, is that these days there are lots of girls nerds. If you really want a girlfriend, you shouldn’t have a lot of trouble finding a girl who shares whatever nerdy interest you may have.  If you need help approaching, attracting, and getting girls to like you, the Girlfriend Activation System can be a big help.

On top of that, the conditions have never been better for guy and gal nerds to find and get to know each other. Online dating, chat rooms, gaming and social media make it easy for the socially challenged to break the ice.

First Impressions Still Count

Even in social media there are some things you should keep in mind when meeting someone for the first time. Remember that first impressions count, so you want to take some time with your social media, online dating, gaming and chat profiles. Choose a profile photo or avatar that doesn’t make you look like an ax-murderer (unless, of course, that’s the effect you’re going for).

Be sure to list positive and interesting facts about yourself on your profile pages. Use a little humor, but keep it pretty clean. After you meet a girl and get to know her, you can get more casual. It’s better to stay reserved at first. Also, be sure you guard your personal information until you’re sure you’re not dealing with some deadly nerdette.

Get A Lot Of Friends & A Girlfriend!

So it’s easy to see that meeting and making friends with girls online could be easier and more comfortable than meeting them in real life, but once you’ve met a few, how do get a girlfriend if you’re a nerd? Well, first of all when you are meeting girls through gaming, social media, chat, online dating and whatnot, don’t limit yourself.

Make friends with lots of girls, and don’t get too serious with any of them right away. Once you’ve gotten to know a girl and you want to meet her, just go for it. Ask her to meet you in a safe public place (that way she’ll know you’re not a serial killer). If she says “Yes!”, great! Go for it! If she says “No”, don’t worry about it. Just keep on being friends and ask another girl. Keep it casual until you find a girl you really click with.

Like Attracts Like

When you’re a nerdy guy looking for a girlfriend, it just makes sense to look for a nerdy girl. Making good use of the Internet to find and “friend” lots of girls is a great approach because if you ask one out and she turns you down, you can just brush off the rejection and try again without losing too much confidence. Sooner or later, you’ll find just the right match, and you’ll have met lots of girls and made lots of friends in the process.

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How To Get A Girlfriend Without Good Looks: The Average Joe’s Guide To Finding A Gorgeous Girlfriend

You don't have to be hot to get a hot girlfriend...

You don’t have to be hot to make women want you…

Contrary to popular belief you don’t need the physique of an action hero or a professional athlete to score yourself a gorgeous girlfriend. If you’re an average Joe who is sick of being single continue reading to discover 3 simple tips which will help you find a stunning girlfriend.

Here’s how to get a girlfriend if you don’t possess good looks:

1. Take up a new hobby

Try to choose a hobby where there is a higher ratio of women, than men.  The reason why meeting women at a ball room dance class, mixed soccer team or a cooking class are high is that while some of the women you meet may not be interested in you romantically on day one by spending time with you each week they may warm up to you.   Especially as community classes or sport teams offer a relaxed, no pressure environment where you can focus on using your skills, conversational skills and humor to impress the fairer sex.

2. Sign up for a speed dating event

Before you tell yourself that speed dating isn’t for you, listen up.  The reason why speed dating is suited to men who are lacking in the looks department is that instead of going on a blind date and spending over an hour with a woman who may have decided that you’re not her type within a few seconds of laying eyes on you, if you attend a speed dating event you’ll increase your chances of success as you’ll get to meet a variety of women within an hour.  If the first woman rejects your advances, fear not as there will be a bevy of beautiful ladies who you’ll have the pleasure of meeting.

3. Emphasize the qualities you have in spades, which better looking men may lack

While there are men who offer women the whole package, good looks, a sense of humor and a shoulder to cry on, handsome men do have a reputation for being selfish, demanding and insensitive.  So, next time you find yourself on a date make sure to emphasize the qualities you have, which her previous romantic interests have lacked.  As an example, if a date tells you that her last boyfriend took himself far too seriously, don’t be afraid to poke fun at yourself every now and then.

So what are you waiting for?  Stop wallowing about your looks and start implementing the three tips listed above and you’ll be sure to find a girlfriend before the year is up.

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Is My Relationship Over? 4 Signs You’re On The Edge Of Doom

When the newness wears off, will your relationship be strong enough to survive the stresses of daily life?

When the newness wears off, will your relationship be strong enough to survive the stresses of daily life?

Have you ever had the feeling that your mate isn’t invested in the relationship 100% with you?  We’ll, if your answer is yes, keep reading.

Many people with relationship problems go through such phases.  Your partner may not be communicating openly with you.  They may not be upfront with you about how they really feel and you may also have secrets of your own.  Such communication problems are a recipe for disaster in any relationship since they create suspicion and harbor resentment.  This, in turn, takes away from the affection and attraction you should be feeling toward each other.

It’s also important to note that most people don’t like confronting their partners in fear of looking insecure or mistrusting.  Also, many people aren’t sure if they are just being paranoid or if they are justified to feel what they feel.

This leads us to a very important question; how do you know when things aren’t working out in your relationship?  To answer this question, below are 4 signs to look for.

1. Your partner’s attentiveness towards you has slacked

This is by far one of the most obvious signs that your relationship is headed for doom.  If your partner used to shower you with compliments and did things to make you feel special but they don’t do it anymore, it’s a clear sign they have shifted their energy and focus to something or someone else.

2. You’re always the one taking initiative

This is another clear sign of a doomed relationship.  If both of you used to be eager to see each other, spend time together, do things for each other etc., and you’re currently the one taking initiative all the time, your relationship is clearly taking a dead-end turn.  A cheating spouse or a spouse who is bored in the relationship will never go out of the way for you.  When they stop paying attention to you, the initiative also goes with it.

3. Your partner seems to be more distracted than usual when you are together

Also, if the number of phone calls and text messages your partner is receiving has increased, then your relationship may very well be headed for doom.  Phone calls and texts that were once ignored when both of you were alone together are now extremely urgent.  Your partner’s attention may have shifted to their phone, tablet, or another gadget.  If they seem more interested in checking their inbox, then spending meaningful one-on-one time with you, then clearly a disconnect is taking place.

4. Your partner’s whereabouts are questionable most of the time

If you can’t tell where your partner is most of the time or their explanations don’t add up, then you have a valid reason to be concerned.  Before most breakups, spouses/partners tend to be uncooperative.  Your spouse/partner may stop telling you where they are or get defensive when you ask.  They may even resort to lying simply because they know you wouldn’t be happy about their escapades especially if they involve things you wouldn’t normally do in a relationship.

Above are some of the things you should look out for when you want to know for sure if your partner or spouse isn’t as vested as you are in the relationship.  Trust your gut if you feel like something is off.  It probably is.